I would rather have someone else do it / fix things for me.
Someone took advantage of me.
No matter what I do (financially) - I just can't seem to get ahead.
Something negative happened - and I'm afraid to make other financial decisions.
I kinda thought I should not have done what I did (financially) - but I did it anyway.
I feel lost and confused about what to do with my money - so I'm not doing anything at all.
I don't want to be engaged at all.
Not so much.
I'm trying to be engaged.
Engaged - but it doesn't seem to make any difference - so why bother?
How would you describe your money philosophy?
I can't take it with me - so I might as well enjoy it now!
High risk equals high rewards - and I'm willing to take chances.
I'm not comfortable spending my money. I have to save it for a rainy day.
No matter how hard I try, I can never make enough money and get ahead.
Making no decision is the best decision for me.
I have something to prove - and I’m willing to do whatever it takes to be financially successful.
think: "I knew it. I kept telling myself that someday this would happen - and it did!"
think: "Now is a good time to buy a lottery ticket" or go to a casino.
think: "Now what?!"
hope it will last.
invest it in a high-risk with a potentially high reward venture.
Share/ brag about my money influx with those who doubted me.
think: "This will never last."
put it in savings.
feel angry that it is, perhaps, "too little" or even "too late".
think it is still not enough.
think: "I don't know how this happened - and I don't want to know. It just happened."
think: "God gave this to me and God can take this away from me, too."
Theme song titles: “Rescue Me” (Aretha Franklin), "Save Me" (Queen)
Movie quotes: “Whoever you are—I have always depended on the kindness of strangers.” (Blanch Dubois from "A Streetcar Named Desire"); “Help me. I’m poor.” (Annie from "Bridesmaids")
Archetypes/iconic touchstones: Cinderella, Rapunzel, Sleeping Beauty, Blanche Dubois
I am responsible for—and with—my finances.
I am fully engaged and responsible for—and with—my finance—today and every day.
Things Associated with this Money Relationship Approach
Self-talk/mottos: "I can’t do that! I’m too afraid. I’m scared of making the wrong decisions – so instead – I’m not going to make any decisions at all!"
Things Associated with this Money Relationship Approach
Self-talk/mottos: "I don't care if it's right or if it's wrong. It's time for me to get what I deserve. I worked hard for this - and I'm going to take what is mine. It's my turn!"Support for Your Money Relationship
©Dr. Linda Humphreys
Things Associated with this Money Relationship Approach
Self-talk/mottos: "It is more spiritual to be poor than to be rich. Money changes people and I don’t want to change /I don’t want anything to change."; "Rich people are corrupt-and they had to do corrupt things to get their wealth and to maintain it."; "It is more humble to be poor than to be rich-and God wants us to be humble."Support for Your Money Relationship
Things Associated with this Money Relationship Approach
Self-talk/mottos: "I don't want to know. I would rather not know. Don't tell me anything."Support for Your Money Relationship
Things Associated with this Money Relationship Approach
Self-talk/mottos: "I don't want to hear what you have to say or what about what you did-or why! I am mad-and I am going to do something about it!"Support for Your Money Relationship
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Things Associated with this Money Relationship Approach
Self-talk/mottos: "I'll never have enough money."; "I'll never make enough money."; "No matter how much I try or how many hours I work-it is never enough to just make ends meet."; "It is useless. What's the point? I am always behind financially."; "I have done everything I could-and nothing works! I am still working my butt-off - and for what?!"Support for Your Money Relationship
Things Associated with this Money Relationship Approach
Self-talk/mottos: “It’s only money! No big deal!”, “I can’t be bothered with the details”; “Details – schmee-tails! I’m a free spirit!”, “I can’t be bothered with a budget. It is too restricting.”, "I can't take it with me-so I might as well spend it today!"
The Money Miser Money Relationship Approach means the go-to mode involves a tendency to be tight-fisted with money with a honker-down and batten-the-hatches view of financial resources. Spending money-if money is to even be spent at all - can seem quite challenging - as it is engrained to always "save for a rainy day." With a tendency to perceive money in a doom and gloom light - there also seems to be an underlining thread of lack and/or scarcity as it relates to financial resources.
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